Being Single: Being Happy With Yourself


My friends know me, they know I'm not here for drama whether its relationship or friendship I'm not here for it, you can leave all of that at the door, and I feel that what rushed relationships bring. As cuffing season is starting people will find a way to get themselves into a relationship just for the sake of not facing the winter months alone.

We all have that one friend that's never ever single, and it's to that friend that this post is for that one person that is finding some kind of validity from those relationships I feel needs to know who they are and really love themselves. There's no need to find yourself living with a guy like he is your husband without a title. I've seen this time and time again. Girls playing house with guys being optimistic that the guy will eventually come round to them being a couple when the truth is the guy is out there playing the field when he is not at home. There's a plain and simple solution to this and it's to love yourself enough to make sure you don't find yourself in this type of situation time and time again. If you have to move out, so be it.  But once you close that door behind you and never open it. He might come running back to you but who is to say that he is not adding you to the list of girls that he says he is exclusive with. If you find yourself needing to give love and affection to someone get a pet, go out and treat your friends and family.  You don't want to find yourself years down the line with kids and married second guessing your choices because you rushed and were hasty in your decisions.

Now me being the observant individual I am, I notice that some people make being in a relationshop their end goal in life and find value in themselves once they are in relationships. I feel that relationships/marriage should be a bonus in life and that you aren't a failure if you aren't on the pathway to marriage.

Before entering a relationship you must be truly happy with yourself before even thinking about allowing yourself to love another and for that person to love you. I say it time and time again self love isn't selfish but important.

Use the time being single as me time, use it as a time of reflection.  Being single it is a time to concentrate on yourself because when you're in a relationship you take the focus off you or even get lazy when it comes to developing yourself. Being single is not the end of the world you are open to life you have to remember there are things for worse than being single. Brokenhearted and alone? Be happy you're still breathing and have other doors ready to be opened by you. Remember being single truly doesn't mean you're alone you still have people behind you your friends and family they are always ready to bare the weight of whatever is on your shoulders.

'Single is not a status. It is a word that describes a person who is strong enough to live and enjoy life without depending on others'

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